“I know I’m right,” said my client. “We don’t have the resources to participate in the campaign my partner wants to engage in and he won’t let it go. So what do I do?”
“What’s your intention,” I asked. He told me that they are trying to grow the business. The campaign made sense, but the resources to do it simply weren’t available. So, in one sense, he was right. Unfortunately, he was also misaligned.
The client had desired results of growth. Growing is a function of expansion, openness, abundance, or at least, enoughness. However, his mindset was in a place of scarcity and restriction – what “can’t be done”/what they “can’t do”/”don’t have.”
Unlocking the door to your goals is a lot like, well, unlocking a door. In a door lock, the tumblers need to be aligned perfectly so that the knob can turn and the door can open. The key aligns the tumblers in such a way. Your mind is no different.
In order to achieve your goals, your beliefs, thoughts, feelings, and actions all need to be aligned with the intended outcomes. In this case, the mindset of scarcity was diametrically opposed to the outcome of growth. And you can’t grow your business from scarcity thinking any more than you can lose weight by eating cake.
So the opportunity for the client was to realign his mindset with his goals. “What DO you have,” I asked. “How can you leverage that and/or other resources?” By asking these and other questions, we started to shift his thinking from what wasn’t possible to what might be possible.
This is an example of realignment. Good and bad, right and wrong, true and false are all subjective and constructs of our thinking. If I make a statement that agrees with your experience, you’ll say that the statement is true. However, if it disagrees with your experience, you’ll say that it’s false. Imagine someone who has lived their entire life only being outside at night. Would they agree with you that the sky is blue?
Unlikely. And what about a court case where one person wins and the other loses. The winner will say the outcome was good and the loser will suggest otherwise. The circumstances don’t change. The ways people perceive them do.
If we set aside the thinking and ego constructs to release the notions of good/bad, right/wrong, true/false, we can look through the lens of “aligned” or “misaligned.” As Shakespeare wrote in Hamlet (Act 2, Scene 2) “…for there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”
Belief systems, thoughts, feelings, actions, and goals – the proverbial tumblers – must be aligned in order for them to give you the best chance of the intended outcome coming to fruition. If something is out of alignment, goal attainment becomes far more difficult.
Take a look at your current business and/or your life scene. Where might you be out of alignment and how so? What might be a way for you to realign with your intended outcomes? Where are you clinging to being “right,” or something being “good,” or “true?” Are you willing to let go of being right in service to achieving your goals? Share your ideas/suggestions on Facebook! And for inspirational messages (or random goofy stuff) follow me on Twitter, and get more “behind the scenes” stuff on InstaGram.
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Executive coach and motivational speaker Chris M. King facilitates the mind shift necessary for professionals and organizations to achieve authentic success and empowerment. Clients experience productivity increases of up to 40%, freedom from burnout and overwhelm, clarity in times of transition, dramatically improved work/life balance, answers to "what's next," creative solutions for innovation, and an overall increase in satisfaction in career and in life. And he does all of this without ever giving advice! Chris doesn't show them THE way. He guides them in finding THEIR way. An emerging thought leader in the men's movement, Chris also works with professional men and women on accountability, vulnerability, and empowerment. He specifically addresses the issues associated with mid-life crises and Peter Pan Syndrome. He is a volunteer for ManKind Project International, a contributing author to The Good Men Project and Elephant Journal, and is honored to be working with Sam Morris as a contributor to Zen Warrior Training®, helping people achieve self-mastery. Chris is also a coach at Project Bully Buster, coaching teens as they navigate the challenges of adolescence. He is honored to work with and support organizations dedicated to the men’s movement, to women's issues, and, as brother to a special needs sister, the US Special Olympics. Chris is currently working on his first book.

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